Why do our clothes have to define us as individuals?
Why do the clothes you wear matter how people see you?
What we teach our children matters, regardless if it’s at home or in the school.
I did a blog based on the fact that school’s were sending children home based on what they were wearing. If there straps were too skinny they were told to put a shirt underneath or if young girl’s midriffs were showing they would be sent home. Why? Simply because it could be distracting to the boys in the school from learning. I’m not sure how parts of bodies would be distracting but that’s their reason.
We’re teaching our children that it doesn’t matter if they are comfortable in their clothes or what they should want to wear is based on what is acceptable in society. What I find interesting is the fact that some people seem to forget that there is more than one message to teach your child. We should teach our children to be confident about their personality, their intelligence and their talents and to be uncomfortable with our bodies and what we wear. My mum brought me up to not be negatively judgmental towards anyone. She taught me to be confident in everything I do no matter what anybody says. She taught me to value my independence and how my introverted personality is something to be celebrated, not shunned.
So why aren’t we teaching our children this? I teach my son everyday these things because my mother taught me these things. My mum learned later on that what I wear doesn’t define me, that even if I do show some cleavage that it doesn’t make me into a whore. What makes me, me is me. Not my clothes.
Wear what you want to wear, not because it’s what everyone else wants you wear, but because you want to!
Women shouldn’t body shamed other women and parents should not talk negatively about other women’s bodies in front of their children. I don’t care how big a woman is, I will never sit in front of my son and comment that she’s fat. If anything I try and teach my son women are beautiful regardless of what they are wearing or how big they are or small. That what a woman or girl is wearing doesn’t matter, it’s what makes her an individual. I shouldn’t be told to “get some self respect” just because I chose to wear a short skirt on that particular day. I do respect myself thank you very much, and just because I am wearing something short or tight does not mean I am asking to get raped. Nobody asks for that. We should stop sexualising the female body, especially girls underage, no matter what they are wearing. Thankfully, I am comfortable enough in my body to wear whatever clothing I like, and that doesn’t just include short skirts and tight dresses.
Empower yourself and the women around you!
I am just as comfortable and confident wearing boyfriend jeans and a baggy top. As women, we need to stop making other women and girls feel ashamed about what they wear. A woman wearing revealing clothing has nothing to do with her self respect or her intelligence. We cannot teach the value of female empowerment then shun girls for wearing things that make them feel empowered.
If a woman wants to wear short skirts and crop tops, let her. If a woman wants to wear long sleeves and baggy jeans, then let her. Because we can do and wear whatever the hell we want.